"Remember that a successful marriage depends on two things:
finding the right person and being the right person" quote. Do we really know
the actual definition of a successful marriage? If not than lets look for it and
see what conclusion we can draw. We often say that someone somewhere is made for
you and the day you come across that person you feel that that he or she is the
one you have been waiting for. But later we see that due to lack of
understanding and mental compatibility they move apart. So how can we say that
they were the perfect match since they didn't gave any effort to understand each
other. So it's important you know your partner. There are people who get
physically attracted and fall for each other and eventually end up getting
married. But later on when they see their wavelength not matching they easily
get separated without a second thought. In today's generation we see these
incidents more compare to earlier generation. And this is more due to the
changing social scenario. With so many things to divert your attention you
really don't know what to do.
Marriage is not just coming together of two individuals. There is much more to it. To sustain a marriage it is important that there is effort from both sides than only a marriage can carry on. A successful marriage is like a good recipe whose main ingredients are love, commitment, understanding, concern and togetherness. If you can include these aspects in your married life you can find happiness in your marriage. Andre Maurois once aptly said, "A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short." Which is so true. When we talk about mental compatibility between husband and wife we have seen that not only incase of arrange marriage this problem exist where both of them were unknown to each other before marriage but even after many years of courtship in love marriages this problem exist because when we meet before marriage we are at our best to impress the other person. And we start accepting each other the way we like to see each other. But gradually after marriage when we slip into our natural self that time we have to accept each other as we are. And in most of the cases the real self is not what we wanted to see and then begins the contradiction with the person whom we have loved and with whom I have to spend my life. So it's important that when you love a person love him or her the way he or she is and not the way you want him or her to be. Than only you can be happy.
A happy married life calls for constant commitment and concern for each other. There are few small and minute aspects, which we tend to forget in our married life, as we get busy with the daily chores. So at times it is important to indulge in those minute details of a married life, which will constantly remind each other of the love and concern being present. We can conclude by the quote of Barnett Brickner, which says it, all that "Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate."